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Sacrement du mariage. Le couple et le pr\u00eatre au moment de passer les alliances\u00a0\u00bb title_text=\u00a0\u00bbSheila_092024_Low10&Prime; _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb4.27.5&Prime; _module_preset=\u00a0\u00bbe30b6337-9d21-42c3-960d-c15e8bfcdb94&Prime; custom_margin=\u00a0\u00bb||59px|||\u00a0\u00bb global_colors_info=\u00a0\u00bb{}\u00a0\u00bb][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=\u00a0\u00bb3_5&Prime; _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb4.27.4&Prime; _module_preset=\u00a0\u00bbdefault\u00a0\u00bb global_colors_info=\u00a0\u00bb{}\u00a0\u00bb][et_pb_text ol_position=\u00a0\u00bboutside\u00a0\u00bb ol_item_indent=\u00a0\u00bb22px\u00a0\u00bb _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb4.27.5&Prime; _module_preset=\u00a0\u00bbdefault\u00a0\u00bb text_text_color=\u00a0\u00bb#252525&Prime; header_font=\u00a0\u00bb||on||||||\u00a0\u00bb header_text_color=\u00a0\u00bb#294675&Prime; header_font_size=\u00a0\u00bb48px\u00a0\u00bb header_line_height=\u00a0\u00bb1.1em\u00a0\u00bb header_2_font=\u00a0\u00bb||on||||||\u00a0\u00bb header_2_text_color=\u00a0\u00bb#294675&Prime; global_colors_info=\u00a0\u00bb{}\u00a0\u00bb]<\/p>\n<h1>Parler de ses attentes avant le mariage<\/h1>\n<p>Beaucoup de couples ne peinent pas par manque d\u2019amour. Ils peinent parce qu\u2019ils portent des attentes qu\u2019ils n\u2019ont <strong>jamais exprim\u00e9es \u00e0 voix haute<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Des attentes concernant :<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>la mani\u00e8re de g\u00e9rer les conflits<\/li>\n<li>ce qu\u2019est une \u00ab bonne communication \u00bb<\/li>\n<li>la mani\u00e8re de g\u00e9rer l\u2019argent<\/li>\n<li>le temps pass\u00e9 avec la famille \u00e9largie<\/li>\n<li>la r\u00e9partition des r\u00f4les au foyer<\/li>\n<li>l\u2019intimit\u00e9<\/li>\n<li>la pri\u00e8re et la foi<\/li>\n<li>ce que signifie \u00eatre \u00ab un bon conjoint \u00bb<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Les attentes inexprim\u00e9es deviennent souvent des d\u00e9ceptions. Les d\u00e9ceptions deviennent de la ranc\u0153ur. La ranc\u0153ur cr\u00e9e de la distance. Mais les attentes peuvent aussi ouvrir un <strong>chemin vers l\u2019unit\u00e9<\/strong>lorsque les couples en parlent avec humilit\u00e9.<\/p>\n<h2>D\u2019o\u00f9 viennent les attentes ?<\/h2>\n<p>La plupart des attentes sont acquises. Elles viennent :<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>de notre famille d\u2019origine<\/li>\n<li>de la culture<\/li>\n<li>des m\u00e9dias<\/li>\n<li>des relations pass\u00e9es<\/li>\n<li>de nos peurs et de nos espoirs personnels<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Certaines attentes sont saines. D\u2019autres sont irr\u00e9alistes. Beaucoup diff\u00e8rent simplement d\u2019une personne \u00e0 l\u2019autre. <strong>Les diff\u00e9rences ne sont pas une menace. Elles nous renseignent.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>L\u2019objectif est de se comprendre, sans devenir identiques<\/h2>\n<p>Un couple \u00e9panoui n\u2019a pas besoin d\u2019attentes identiques. Il a besoin d\u2019une mani\u00e8re commune de parler de ses diff\u00e9rences.<\/p>\n<p>FOCCUS l\u2019y aide en lui donnant des mots et un cadre pour aborder des sujets qu\u2019il pourrait autrement \u00e9viter. Quand un couple peut dire :<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00ab Je n\u2019avais pas r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que tu attendais cela. \u00bb<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab Je n\u2019y avais jamais pens\u00e9 ainsi. \u00bb<\/li>\n<li>\u00ab Pouvons-nous apprendre ensemble une meilleure fa\u00e7on de faire ? \u00bb<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u2026il construit d\u00e9j\u00e0 un mariage plus solide.<\/p>\n<h2>Un exercice simple pour les fianc\u00e9s<\/h2>\n<p>Essayez ceci ensemble :<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Chacun nomme une attente<\/strong> qu\u2019il a concernant le mariage.<\/li>\n<li>L\u2019autre r\u00e9pond avec <strong>curiosit\u00e9, sans se d\u00e9fendre<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<li>Puis demandez : \u00ab D\u2019o\u00f9 penses-tu que cette attente vient ? \u00bb<\/li>\n<li>Terminez par : \u00ab Comment pourrions-nous nous soutenir sur ce point ? \u00bb<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Ce type de conversation pr\u00e9vient les conflits futurs : non parce qu\u2019il r\u00e9sout tout imm\u00e9diatement, mais parce qu\u2019il construit la compr\u00e9hension et la confiance.<\/p>\n<p>Avec gratitude,<\/p>\n<h3>Sheila J. 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